Andrews Experience relief and happiness through the Happy Challenge

1. Auflage 2018
ISBN: 978-3-7460-6629-5
Verlag: BoD - Books on Demand
Format: EPUB
Kopierschutz: 6 - ePub Watermark

E-Book, Englisch, 119 Seiten

"About the book" Experience relief and happiness through the Happy Challenge This book is aimed at people who no longer place their happiness in the hands of others, but want to achieve this goal out of their own motivation. Don't postpone your happy life until tomorrow, live today in the HERE and NOW! Enjoying the LIFE - instead of constantly renounce, optimizing, pondering ... That's how it works without a guilty conscience! # The positive aspects of self-love - Boosting self-confidence and self-esteem # Fulfilled Partnership - What makes a relationship really happy # Mindfulness & Deceleration in everyday life - I am offline! # Guide to happiness for more satisfaction & joy in life # Overcome and free yourself from fears, panic attacks & phobias in your life # The art of self-motivation - What really inspires us & how to train the drive for action # Financial freedom & minimalism pure - How you declutter your life, home, mind & soul # Stay fit, healthy & vital - Inspirations for a healthy lifestyle Start today by making the most of your life and building a positive mindset. Be happy and will be ... starts in the HEAD! A new easy life has a liberating effect: Less ballast, less pressure, more zest for life and light-heartedness. Get this book NOW and (finally) become a happy person again!

Autoren/Hrsg.

Andrews, Lilly

Leseproben

The positive aspects of self-love - Boosting self-confidence and self-esteem

Appealing and likeable - How to make a good impression

How can you make others likeable and likeable? This does not require a great deal of witchcraft, but rather very important basics. Some of them are very simple and others a bit more complicated, but everyone can learn. I'll introduce you to the best tips now.

Perhaps you've heard before that we make a decision within the first few seconds or even tenths of a second about who we like and who we don't like. That puts a lot of pressure on you, of course, but it shouldn't be. Because you can't and don't have to appeal to everyone. It's perfectly normal that not every person can relate to you. Because you can't make sense of every person. Nevertheless, of course we would like to be well received by most people and there is some good advice for that.

The magic formula common to all tips and recommendations is this one: Make your counterpart feel comfortable in your presence! And how exactly do you achieve this by giving sympathy. Because if you give up sympathy, you get some back.

Tip 1: May your fellow human beings

Sympathy is a self-fulfilling prophecy. I. e. if we believe that another person likes us, then we automatically automatically behave in a much more friendly and direct way towards this person. With the effect that this person probably really likes us more.

If, on the other hand, we believe that our counterparts do not like or fear rejection, then we unconsciously behave in a reserved and cooler way towards this person. And in this way, they run the risk of getting more frequent and stronger.

So sympathy has a lot to do with your thoughts and beliefs. Of course, people who love themselves, like themselves and are at peace with themselves have a clear advantage here. Because if you don't think it's possible that someone else might like you. Then, of course, you will always go in all social interactions with this expectation and attitude. And unconsciously contribute to the fact that other people really don't like you so much.

If you want to change that, then start appreciating and loving yourself.

Tip 2: Let your counterpart know that you find him/her likeable

People like people who like them, too. We feel flattered when we experience that an opposite person likes us and react accordingly benevolently. You're probably also aware of this effect that you suddenly look at a person with completely different eyes after hearing that he or she thinks you're good.

Tip 3: Be a good listener

You don't have to do anything great to make other people like you. You don't have to have insane narrative skills and the best stories. It's much more important than telling a story, it's listening. So be a good listener, because people love to talk about themselves. There are studies which show that the greater the proportion of our speakers, the more valuable we are in assessing a consultation or conversation.

Tip 4: Interested questions

Because of this, you will of course make sure that your partner can tell you even more about yourself. You also show your interest in each other's lives and also show him that your full attention is with him. Of course, the whole thing should not end in an interrogation, so if possible ask questions about topics your partner likes to talk about, such as hobbies, passions, traveling, etc., please do not hesitate to contact us.

Tip 5: Emphasize your similarities

It's not about foolishly talking to others after the mouth, but if the other one was perhaps now in the USA and you were already in the USA. Then this is not only a good topic of conversation, but also makes each other more likeable. Because Gleich and Gleich likes to join us!

Tip 6: Make a compliment

Again, do not mucilage or talk to others after the mouth. But everyone is happy about a sincere compliment. It's also a great icebreaker, e. g. as a conversation starter. Just come up to someone and say,"Hey I like your glasses, they look great on you. I've been looking for a while, too. Where did you buy them?". You can then start a conversation about this. By the way, this also shows that you are self-confident and do not feel threatened by others, because you are able to praise their successes and achievements without feeling worse.

7. Tip: Smile, smile and smile

A smile always has a pleasant effect and so you can gain sympathy without giving a sound of yourself. Just ask yourself in which company you would like to stay. In the company of someone who looks grouchy and grumpy all the time. Or in the company of someone who smiles and shines all the time.

8. Tip: look your opponent in the eyes

Eye contact is also absolutely essential, because it signals to you that you are really there with the attention. That you're not yawning or searching the room with your eyes. Instead, you really concentrate on your counterpart, you really listen to him or her. It also signals that you are self-confident again, because you don't look down with your eyes completely intimidated. That means you're able to keep eye contact for a long time.

Tip 9: Ask for advice

The very fact that you ask the person about something impresses most people. You will then feel important, valued and interesting. And they respond to that not only with an answer, but also with sympathy for you.

Tip 10: Admit small mistakes and weaknesses

This sounds paradoxical, because most people think they have to be perfect and liked. But the opposite is the case, we are all not perfect and have these small mistakes, weaknesses and peculiarities that make us human and sympathetic. Just imagine you're listening to stories of two women telling pretty much the same things. But one tells all the time about her (everyday) routines, successes and how well she gets everything under one roof and how perfect her life is. The other woman also gets everything on the line and with which runs it also super, but she tells then between in between in it that she can not resist e. g. chocolate simply or that she is already quite a clumsy one and runs more often times somewhere against a wall. Which of the two women do you find more likeable? It is precisely these small mistakes and weaknesses that make us likeable.

Tip 11: Be authentic

You see some of these tips are very easy to implement and others may require you to develop a positive self-image of yourself. For all tips and tricks, however, it is absolutely essential that you don't bend or warp. It's that you always stay authentic and that you stay "you". Because people like people who are authentic. We are attracted to such personalities because we know that we can trust them. It's hard to like a human being if we don't know exactly what to expect and how this person feels and feels.

If you have understood that you are likeable and loveable, other people will see it too!

Tips for learning to love yourself

Being able to love oneself is the prerequisite for a happy life. Here are some tips on how to do this.

I also belong to the kind of mice who believe that self-love is selfishness. I can't explain it to myself - why. It had been so natural to me for a very long time and this is not true in the front and back. I have known and knew since childhood on the phrase "Love your next as well as yourself". It has long been proven that we cannot love others if we cannot love ourselves. Just to have a look at what stands in our way and which tips you can do. We consider this to be selfish, i. e. something you shouldn't do, because it is seen as negative. The German-American psychoanalyst Erich Fromm says quite clearly,"Selfish people cannot love even themselves. So these are two completely different shoes. One thing is still very important, we are so happy to be in the victim role, i. e. we like to flee so much into the victim role because we are always to blame for others. For example, our "parents have..., our teacher has..., my supervisor has... etc." and that's why I consider myself a failure, so I am not able to love myself. But that's not the way to play it. There are two protagonists in self-love - you love yourself, it's all about you, someone else has no say at all. It is only between you and your consciousness and your inner self. Or whatever you want to call it now. If you realize that, we know we can do something. Then we can use the levers and make a difference. That's what this is all about.

I really want to put this sentence above all else because I think it is the most meaningful sentence of all - treat yourself as you treat your best friend or best friend. What happens if something happens to your girlfriend that she's so sorry about? Then you go and comfort her and say to her "this can happen - we are all just people. You know what I cooked a nice dinner for us. Come to me and we'll talk about it and then the whole thing will be forgotten ". There we have some nice tips such as bath tubs, a back massage or anything else we can think of to comfort this friend or friend and say "It's not so bad - just look at life". But how do we deal with ourselves when something has happened to us, the thumb goes down like that. Maybe something like "I didn't deserve it any better, or is it clear I'm a failure". Here we draw quite different registers with ourselves. And this must end! When situations arise again, where you think you have to finish yourself off. Then please hold your breath and think about what I would say to my girlfriend if it happened or to my boyfriend. Seeing what's done. It's a great way to deal with yourself and is incredibly helpful. This of...