Dr. Eddie M. Connor Heal Your Heart

Discover How To Live, Love, And Heal From Broken Relationships
1. Auflage 2014
ISBN: 978-1-4835-4068-9
Verlag: BookBaby
Format: EPUB
Kopierschutz: Adobe DRM (»Systemvoraussetzungen)

E-Book, Englisch, 241 Seiten

HEAL YOUR HEART is an in-depth and insightful perspective, on the uniqueness of love, relationships, marriage, and forgiveness. Learn powerful principles and discover how to heal from broken relationships. HEAL YOUR HEART has been described as 'Revealing, eye-opening, and engaging.' This book will open the depth of your soul, to matters of the heart, mind, love, and life. DR. EDDIE M. CONNOR, JR. is a College Professor, International Speaker, and founder of the national literacy program, 'Boys 2 Books.' As a stage 4 cancer survivor, he is a bestselling author of several books including, 'Unwrap The Gift In YOU!' HEAL YOUR HEART INCLUDES: - 10 tips on how to heal from broken relationships. - How to build healthy relationships. - Dr. Connor's personal story of overcoming stage 4 cancer. - How to find peace from broken pieces. - Becoming a magnet for the right one. - Overcoming your past and toxic relationships.

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Dr. Eddie M. Connor, Jr.

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CHAPTER 2

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I’m Through With Your Issues

As you read this chapter, I want to impress upon you, to embrace a spirit of optimism and victory. Everything bad that you have experienced, is still going to work out for your good. I don’t want you to give up or throw in the towel. I do want you to realize, that the bigger the battle, the greater the blessing.

You have a purpose, you have life, and since you have life, that’s the greatest opportunity to live, laugh, and love on another level.

SILENT SCREAMS

There is a story of a very rich man, who lived in a mansion and owned all kinds of elaborate paintings, fancy cars, and statues. Yet out of everything he owned, his prized possessions were his exotic fish, that swam in his luxurious in-house aquarium. His exotic fish, were some of the most beautiful sea creatures, from all 4 corners of the world. One night as he was on his way to bed, as was his custom, he fed his fish before he went to sleep.

This particular night, after feeding his exotic fish, the rich man adjusted the temperature of the aquarium. When he woke up in the morning, he was startled to see that all of his exotic fish had floated to the top of the tank and died, because of the excessively warm temperature of the aquarium. All of a sudden, rather than throwing up his hands in rage and eulogizing his fish, he asked himself, “I wonder did the fish scream at night and I didn’t hear it?”

As you’re reading this particular book, maybe you have been screaming, but nobody was receptive enough to hear it. Maybe you were silently screaming and no one was listening. All they could see was your makeup on the outside, yet they’re blind to your pain on the inside. All they could witness, was how sharp your outfit was, but couldn’t assess the temperature of a cold heart, that was void of warmth and love.

CLOSED HEARTS, OPEN WOUNDS

Dr. Cornel West declared, “We have deodorized the funk of our issues, we’ve perfumed our pain, and masked it with makeup.” Have you ever been in a state of mind, where you found yourself smiling on the outside, but saddened on the inside? We would call that “Putting up a front” because we don’t want people to know, that we don’t always have it together. The social media or photography terminology for that would be “Using a filter,” to counterbalance how we really feel, look, or think. Oftentimes we use personal filters in our lives, to color in the gray areas and hide our flaws. We have a propensity to alter ourselves on the outside, seeking to cover what we’re dealing with on the inside. Sometimes we deal with issues that nobody knows about, struggles, setbacks, and circumstances that are too painful to mention.

Our hearts become closed doors, when there’s nobody to share our issues with and open up to. Sometimes the hurt within, has ensued to such a degree, that you’ve pushed the pain of the memory in the back of your mind. Mentally perplexed because of the hurt, abandonment, abuse, and shame.

Oftentimes, our lives become much like the fish in the aquarium. The temperature of our hurt, pain, and issues has been turned up and now we find ourselves swimming in a cesspool of circumstances. Sometimes life, becomes a pool of pain and you’re screaming for relief, but nobody hears you.

I can’t hear your scream and I can’t hear your voice, as you read this book. However, I do believe that God will use these words, to speak victory into your life, through healing, restoration, and overcoming power. Be encouraged, Psalm 118:17 declares, “You shall not die, but you will live and declare the works of the Lord.”

A KNOCKDOWN, ISN’T A KNOCKOUT

Begin to adopt the attitude of a fighter. Yes, you may have been knocked down, but it happens to everybody. We all get knocked down, at some point in our lives. However, a knockdown becomes a knockout, when you stay down. Get up and get back in the fight!

I CANCER-VIVE

Personally, I know what it’s like to fight and be the one screaming, yet seemingly nobody hears me. I know what it’s like, to be in a fight and wanting to wave the white flag, capitulate, and give up. I almost died battling stage 4 cancer at the age of 15, but my dear mother reminded me that the prefix of the word “Cancer” is can.

God pre-fixed my fight, in order to give me the victory to win. Philippians 4:13 affirms, “I can do all things through Christ that strengthens me.” Your struggle, strength, and victory is pre-fixed. Just hold out and hang in there, because in the end you will win!

You will revive your dream and resurrect your purpose. You’re not going to only be delivered, but you will be healed. All bets are off, this is straight no chaser, raw, real, relevant, and uncut unadulterated truth. Despite the pain of the past, realize that God is healing the broken places in your life, mind, and heart. He is the only one who can give you peace, from life’s broken pieces.

SEE BETOUND WHAT YOU SEE

As you read and mentally digest this information, discover a greater place of inspiration. Even now, your vision for your life is being restored. It’s been suggested that “Having sight, without vision means you’re still blind.”

Don’t you believe that there’s more to your life, than what has been? You’re called to be greater, do greater things, and live on a greater level. You’re beyond the mediocre and mundane. There’s more that you are to experience and achieve. Stay motivated through the process.

A negative state of mind, will trap you in a state of sickness, by suffocating your dreams and visions. When you get to a place that says, “I’m sick and tired, of being sick and tired,” then you won’t settle for mediocrity and mess. You will do more than survive, you will begin to thrive!

Begin to mentally break out of the box, live, think, and move freely. You have to walk in freedom, because you can’t live aimlessly and void of purpose. Refuse to be sad, bad, and mad. Refuse to live your life, barely making it. You’re too gifted to have less and think less of yourself. Begin to live life more abundantly. Refuse to be angry about what didn’t work out, or who didn’t treat you right.

Stop subscribing to mental junk and issues that should be discarded! A junk filled mind is worse than an email inbox, filled with junk mail. Send negativity a notice that says, “Cancel my subscription, I’m through with your issues.” Don’t subscribe to mess, when you were born to live blessed! Extra, extra read all about it. Cancel my subscription...I’m through with your issues!

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You’re too blessed to be stressed and associate with people, who bring junk and mess. When you really want better for your life, you will cut off negative people, drama, and dream killers. You won’t live your best life, until you let go of drama, anger, bitterness, and strife. Give it an eviction notice, you may not know where it’s going, but it has to leave your heart and mind.

I’ve come to the realization that some people are like soap operas, they’re just filled with drama. If life were like the Academy Awards, I’m sure that you could think of somebody who deserves the title of best actor/actress, because of all their drama. They’re deserving of a Daytime Emmy, for all of the drama they keep up, day after day. As you let them go, you will see that the drama leaves right along with them. God allows some people to walk out of your life, to make room for the right people to walk into your life.

Your responsibility is to press forward and not run back, to place them in your life, after God has moved them out of your life. It’s your job to let them go, so you can grow. Stop holding on to people that have let you go. Start letting go of negative people who are holding on to you, because they will hold you back from your destiny and purpose.

You can’t keep doing permanent things with temporary people, simply because doing permanent things with temporary people leaves you with permanent scars.

The place to begin healing your heart, is to understand that there is a blessing in this lesson of letting go. You have the patience and preparation to pass the test.

LIFE IS SIMPLE MATH

On your journey, make sure that you have people in your life who are adding to you, not subtracting from you. There are people who only come into your life to take. Just taking your power, draining you of your peace, constantly complaining, and gossiping. Please believe me, if they talk about other people to you, they will talk about you to other people. Like they say, “If they bring a bone, they will take a bone.”

One of the most important decisions that you will ever make, are the relationships that you choose to align yourself with. Whether it be friendships, business, dating, or marriage, it will either reap fruitful or frightful results. Make sure the people who step into your life, have something to add to it and vice versa.

I’m a living witness, relationships are much like your credit union or banking service. If you keep letting people make more withdrawals, than deposits in your life, you will end up bankrupt. You have to get to a place in your life that says,...