Rice WinCrafting

The Art of Creating Profound Levels of Winning in Every Area of Your Life
1. Auflage 2023
ISBN: 978-1-6678-9060-9
Verlag: BookBaby
Format: EPUB
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E-Book, Englisch, 536 Seiten

The book WinCrafting describes a breakthrough approach to being truly, profoundly and quickly effective in the presence of conflict. The WinCrafting approach ... which brings to the fore Ideas Whose Time Has Come ... replaces the old and outdated ideas which have failed the test of time, such as 'win-lose,' 'conflict management,' and 'the adversary system.' In this book, you will discover the steps which lead away from the pain and wasted time which are entailed in 'traditional' approaches to 'dealing with conflicts and problems.' Instead, the new WinCrafting approach produces results which are deeply satisfying to everyone who is involved in a situation which people have been trained to think of as a 'conflict, 'dispute' or 'problem.' Words such as those are only labels! What you really have, when life presents you with a situation or circumstance to which such labels can be affixed, is raw materials, and you are going to create something with those raw materials! So, instead of using the 'rules' of the reactive approaches, you can instead learn to use the role model of artists, and take full advantage of the creativity which indwells you! And as you begin to master that creativity, you can find a way to generate results (not only in the presence of 'conflicts,' but in such things as your relationships and educational and career paths!) which are, well, the author, John Rice, likes to call them Beautiful Music! This book is full of many of the stories of the thousands of people who John has worked with, over the decades of his WinCrafting practice, people who have created beautiful and inspiring things with those raw materials! The book also lays out the critical steps ... you simply MUST be aware of those if you want to walk away from the experiences people so often have when they are attempting to do such things as 'manage conflict,' with horrifying portions of their time being eaten alive by those situations, and living in a great deal of pain in the process.

Autoren/Hrsg.

Rice, John

Leseproben

PART I The PURPOSE of this book, and what it’s to do with YOU CHAPTER 1. The Beautiful Music Possibility … A New METRIC “How’s it going?” When someone asks me a question like that, my reply is usually pretty much “automatic pilot.” In a given moment, I might say, “I’m good, how are you?” Or maybe, if they ask at a time when I know, from the dark cloud surrounding my visage, that they’ve already concluded that I’m a bit to the grim side, I’ll say something like, “It’s been a tough week … what’s going on with you?” What do you usually say when someone asks you that? Well, I’m not going to start this book by asking you how you’re doing. Rather, I’d like for you to ask yourself that question! In answering the question, I suggest that you skip all the superficial answers, and really take a look at your life. How are your days and weeks going? Where are you, in terms of profound happiness and satisfaction, concerning the things which matter most to you … your relationships, the work you do, things like that? Do you feel that you are Making a Difference in the lives of the people with whom you participate? If you are Making a Difference, is it the Difference you most want to be making? Now… If you’re going to be successful in answering questions such as these, you’re going to need a metric, something to measure against. What’s the best metric available to you for “taking a read,” in any given moment, on how your life is going, or how a particular situation is developing? I suggest that there is a tremendous need for a new way of measuring such things, and I respectfully suggest, as that new metric, the phrase “The Beautiful Music Possibility.” When you scan each area that matters to you in your life, or the overview of your life, do you feel the phrase “Beautiful Music” would be an accurate description of what you see? What about the people around you, particularly the ones you care most about, and the ones you know most about? Would you describe what you see as consistently Beautiful Music? Or would you say, instead, “No, what I see is something less than that.” Most people have moments, even entire seasons, which are glorious manifestations of The Beautiful Music Possibility, but such things are not consistently present in their lives. Invariably, they do not understand what their role must be in order to generate such things in a consistent and satisfying manner, and to make them last! For people who hope to create Beautiful Music, whether in a particular circumstance (such as when a conflict arises), or with regard to a particular life-pursuit such as “my education,” or “my marriage,” or “my career,” there are things which they must know, things they must understand. This book will lay those out for you. We’ll be talking about old ideas which have failed the test of time, ideas which have made it extraordinarily difficult for people to generate Beautiful Music consistently and effectively as they walk through their lives. It’s tremendously important to understand the profound limitations of those old ideas, and to get beyond the habit of wielding them. We’ll be introducing a truly new array of ideas, ideas which empower people to open very wide the doors to the fulfillment of their most profoundly hoped-for dreams. For example, when you, or someone around you, has created Beautiful Music in the course of life, there were always a very specific set of steps which were followed, whether consciously or not. There are only three steps, and the essence of each of those steps is always the same. Unfortunately, much of the “conventional wisdom” of our society and culture, along with a great deal of “professional theory and practice,” going back hundreds of years in the literature, has always suggested four essential steps, instead of three. Sometimes more than four steps are “recommended,” but they always reduce to the same four … and sadly, often disastrously, that fourth step can be a trap, a bog, even quicksand. At best, it tends to involve “running in place,” instead of resolutely moving forward into a beautiful future. And worse, this fourth step often leads people onto a path which is a detour away from The Beautiful Music Possibility, and into a place of ugly, even grotesque, noise, instead of Beautiful Music. When people have generated Beautiful Music in their lives, they invariably followed the three steps … again, the essence of each of those steps is consistent and predictable. It is spectacularly helpful to know what the steps are which must be taken if one hopes to bring into existence, consistently and effectively, results which are Beautiful Music! At this juncture, I should probably at least mention, given the title of this book… Once you make “the three steps” yours, you can bring to bear the creativity which lives in you and move with a Spirited determination through those steps … and I mean in the presence of any of life’s content (!!!) … and fashion results which are truly and profoundly Beautiful Music from the point of view of all concerned! And when you do that, you will be engaging in a process to which I’ve given the name WinCrafting! We’ll be returning to the subject of “the three steps.” But there are a number of things which must be understood, which must be solidly in place, before a person can, in a sure-footed way, take those steps consistently, effectively, and confidently, avoiding any pitfalls along the way! You may wonder, given the title of this book, and my already-many references to “Beautiful Music” … am I going to be making a case for the notion that there is a particular type of music which is more beautiful than all the others? Please put your mind at rest in this regard, and know that I am very aware of the fact that there are so many kinds of Beautiful Music! For purpose of this book, my reference to “Beautiful Music” is to the music which, in a given moment, or over the entire course of your lifetime, speaks to you, as an individual, in a very special way! (It is interesting to note the recent health-related studies which have found that healing effects are neither attributable exclusively to, nor limited to, any specific genre of music. Instead, it is the music which is most profoundly loved by the person who is needing the healing which tends to have the healing effects!) It will be useful for you to spend a bit of time considering the music which you have found to be truly beautiful during the course of your life. For most of us, there have been many types of music which we have experienced as extremely beautiful at one time or another. As just a few examples… There is music which is inspiring and elevating, music which floods us with wonderful memories, music which reminds us of our family’s honored roots and heritage, and music which is just plain fun. The purpose of this book is threefold: (1) to suggest that, with regard to each of your hopes and aspirations in life, your goal should always be, from your point of view (and, whenever possible, also from the point of view of the people around you), that your efforts will produce results which are as magnificent as music which is truly and profoundly beautiful, and nothing less than that; (2) to make very clear the foundation which must be in place in order for The Beautiful Music Possibility to have the best chance of emerging, in all its glory; and (3) to lay out the critical three steps, so that you can proceed in a methodical way, in the presence of any of life’s circumstances, to The Beautiful Music Possibility! There’s something I’d like to make very clear, from the get-go, about the three steps… I don’t mean to be suggesting that taking those steps will always be as simple as the proverbial “hop, skip and a jump.” Sometimes it really can be that easy, and you’ll find yourself rapidly and fluidly generating realities which are truly Beautiful Music, from your own point of view (and when it matters, also from the perspective of others who may be involved). But at other times, when you choose to take that first step, you will be launching yourself toward an utterly worthwhile, but distant, destination. In many circumstances, taking the first step will require you to dig way down deep into yourself, and to engage what Abraham Lincoln referred to as “the better angels of [your] nature,” the part of you that is committed to living in a gloriously inspiring way, instead of, say, living in a merely “reasonable” way, or perhaps in ways which are much worse than that! You may have to wrestle with limitations which you think you (or others) have, and to find a way to get past such things. There will be times when you will have to be courageous in order to proceed. And almost always, you will have to bring forth the part of yourself which is profoundly an artist … you will have to get your mind around a possibility which most folks simply have never been taught, that the circumstances and things which are presenting themselves to you...