Helmstetter What to Say When You Talk to Your Self

1. Auflage 2018
ISBN: 978-0-9970861-0-2
Verlag: BookBaby
Format: EPUB
Kopierschutz: Adobe DRM (»Systemvoraussetzungen)

E-Book, Englisch, 210 Seiten

The international Self-Talk best-seller, updated in this new eBook edition. Each of us is programmed from birth on, and as much as 75% or more of our programming may be negative or working against us. In this newly updated and revised eBook edition, Shad Helmstetter shows the reader how to erase and replace past mental programs with healthy, new programs that can be positively life-changing. Considered by many to be one of the most important and helpful personal growth books ever written.

Autoren/Hrsg.

Helmstetter, Shad

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CHAPTER TWO The “Answers”             There is always an answer, of course. There are countless self-help “answers,” which any of us can find in any bookstore or seminar classroom. If we are to believe what we read on the dust jackets of self-help best-sellers, or hear from dynamic speakers on stage, all any of us has to do is read the right book or attend the right program and, beginning tomorrow, we will be able to change what we would like to change, live better, and find the achievement each of us is seeking. For many years, I studied the philosophies of success, analyzed the lists of instructions—the “how-to’s” of making more money, being a better manager, losing weight, overcoming depression, getting a better job, setting goals, living with others, managing time, or just generally “being more successful.” I tried the success techniques for myself and talked to dozens of others from many walks of life who had done the same. I talked at length with many of the leaders of the success industry—corporations whose business it is to sell us success. I talked to the customers who attended the seminars, bought the books, or listened to the audio tools and watched the videos. I talked to the employees of the companies who were in the business of selling success formulas, to learn if they, too, applied the principles which their companies promoted. To learn what really “worked,” and what did not, I immersed myself in the world of success, examining every facet of that fascinating field from the inside out. I consulted with the leaders of the industry. I examined their methods, their systems, and their “solutions.” And in all that time of studying so much of the field of “success,” I found a consistent promise—the promise of our success, waiting just around the corner. But as I read those books, studied the seminar concepts, and examined the best of the best motivational tools and techniques available, I realized that promise was, ultimately, unfulfilled. I saw that even the best-selling success solutions were able to create lasting changes in only a handful of the tens of thousands of people who tried them. They would work for a time, and then the average individual would revert to his old ways. After the first excitement of the brand-new self-belief wore off, the dreams soon gave way to the realities of everyday living. Have you ever attended a function or a meeting in which someone gave a rousing motivational talk? Have you ever read a book that caught your attention as being life-changing, gotten excited and motivated to put the ideas into practice, only to have the book wind up forgotten on a dusty bookshelf next to other great ideas like it? Have you ever been inspired to change, to achieve something important, and then stopped? Where did the inspiration and the motivation go—and why didn’t it last? If there are so many answers to our questions about what to do to make life better, why have so many people failed at making these great ideas work? Or if they worked for a time, what makes them stop working? It became obvious to me after all my research that within the information on how to lead a better life, how to find more happiness and personal fulfillment, something vital was missing. It was something so essential, so important to the whole process of achieving success that, without it, the solutions wouldn’t work—at least, not for any length of time. The problem is not with the books. The problem is not with the seminars or with the motivational talks. There are a lot of personal growth concepts and techniques that are wonderful. They could work—and they should. There has to be a good reason why the help they give us isn’t permanent. After studying the success ideas and solutions that could work for us, I began to recognize that there was also something working against us.     FINDING A SOLUTION THAT LASTS   I was quite young when I first heard the Biblical passage which reads, “As a man thinketh, so is he.” I recall shaking my head, thinking that could not be. How could we possibly be what we think? After all, isn’t our physical self one thing, and our private thought another? Little did I (or most of us then) understand that the Biblical passage had hit the nail of truth squarely on the head. It would be years later, however, after much research, and following the discoveries through which modern-day neuroscientists had begun to unlock the secrets of the human mind, that I would come to know just how correct––how scientifically correct––that Biblical passage had been. After you examine the philosophies, the theories, and the practiced methods of influencing human behavior, you’ll find, as I did, that it gets down to the simplicity of one small but powerful fact: You will become what you think about most; your success or failure in anything, large or small, will depend on your programming––what you accept from others, and what you say when you talk to yourself. At the time I first recognized that this one simple clue could lead to a breakthrough in individual attitude and performance, most of what we thought we understood about the human brain was little more than speculation. Medical researchers and neuroscientists had not yet explored or mapped the mazes of the brain to the extent which they have today. Few of the brain’s complex electrochemical mysteries were fully understood. But today, as research continues, the marvelous human brain is yielding up more and more of its secrets. Each day more progress is made, and researchers have learned to anticipate an unending drama of new discoveries. An understanding of that simple function of our own personal computer—the human brain—is what has been missing from most of the books and most of our motivational talks. The answer to the problem turned out to be the result of something that had been almost entirely overlooked: We are trying to force the brain to do something that it has not been programmed to do. We want to create success with “rules of success,” but that’s not how the brain works; that’s not how the brain is wired. The reason why some people accomplish nearly any task more easily than others, achieve their goals more readily, and live their lives more fully, is this: Those who appear to be “luckier” than the rest have actually only gotten better mental programming to begin with, or have learned how to erase their old negative programming and replace it with something better. In the last few decades, we have learned more about the workings of the human brain than was known throughout all history prior to that time. We now know that by an incredibly complex physiological mechanism, a joint effort of body, brain, and “mind,” we become the living result of our own thoughts. It is no longer a success theory; it is a simple, but powerful, fact. Neither luck nor desire has the slightest thing to do with it. It makes no difference whether we believe it or not. The brain simply believes what you tell it most. And what you tell it about you, it will create. It has no choice. Through scientific discovery in the field of neuroscience—research into how the brain works to affect every moment of our day-to-day lives—we have proved the relationship between our own programming (how we are mentally “wired”) and our success or failure in any endeavor we undertake, from something as important as a lifetime goal to something as small as what we do in a single day. Have you ever considered just how much of what you do––how you act, how successful you are––is dependent on the conditioning, the programming you received from others, and on the conditioning you subsequently accepted and kept giving yourself? It is virtually impossible for any of us to do anything, no matter how insignificant, without being affected by that programming. Every step you take, move you make, and word you say is affected. It follows that if every action you take, of any kind, is affected by prior programming, then the end results of your actions are equally affected––in short, how successful you will be at anything is inexorably tied directly to the words and beliefs about yourself that you have stored in your subconscious mind. And what is stored there, for most of us, was decided for us by someone else. The human brain, that incredibly powerful personal biochemical computer that each of us has, is capable of doing for you anything reasonable that you’d like it to do. But you have to know how to treat it; you have to know how to wire it in the right way. If you do it right, and give it the right directions, it will do the right thing—it will work for you in the right way. But if you give your mental computer the wrong directions, it will act on those wrong directions; it will continue to respond to the negative programming that you and the rest of the world have been giving it. You have literally been wiring your brain in the wrong way, physically—without even being aware of it.     THE 148,000 “NO’S”   I’ll give you an example of some of the negative programming most of us have received, the kind of programming that, along the way, eventually got hard-wired into the physical structure of our mental computers. And those seemingly harmless words build up inside our subconscious minds, word by word and thought by thought, eventually creating a brick wall of failure we...